I was so used to dealing with things alone, not wanting to change other people’s perception of him that I was silently trying to come to terms with this when my parents broke the news.īasically, he had been borrowing from each of them secretly, using me as an excuse. There were other issues prior to this that had built up and so when this happened it clicked into place. He had won a substantial amount and in less than a week it was gone. The day I was told by my parents, I had already confronted him and told him that I thought he had gambling problems.

The signs were there, I had just become so used to them that they weren’t as blatant as somebody looking from the outside in. I was just one year married, saving extremely hard for a home. In fact that’s how it became a reality, my family and friends heard and then broke the news to me. People wonder how I never knew that my husband owed so much, when everyone else was talking about him behind my back. She felt it important to express from her side how difficult she found it, and still finds it, to cope with her husband who has an addiction to gambling but won’t acknowledge it or get help. Thanks to the writer of this personal story for emailing it in to A Lust for Life.

My wife has a gambling problem